The other day a sweet, newer friend of mine invited me to coffee with some other moms. And I wanted to go, but something held me back.
Help me out here . . . does anyone else ever feel this way?
I don't know what the hesitation is, but my thoughts usually go something like this . . .
I'd like to go out, but there's that downstairs closet that needs cleaning out. And I really need to finish one of those paintings. I promised Giggles I'd sew her teddy bear back together. It's been ages since I scrubbed the bathtub. Lesson plans need to be worked on. Blah, blah, blah.
Getting out of the house is vital when you're a stay-at-home mom! Why in the world do I resist it? I often think of those poor wives who moved west with their husband to settle. Can you imagine day after day; no phone, no next-door neighbors, no internet. Oh, yeah, and no town. I'm thinking it may have been kind of difficult.
It's like there's a weight of responsibility bearing down on me. I don't feel like I deserve a break, and to be totally honest, I really don't feel like it's the right thing to do. Yes, getting out makes you a better wife and mom. Yes, it's healthy. And yes, everyone deserves a chance for some relaxing, agenda-free girl time. I get it in my head, but it's a process to start living it. Again, can anyone relate?
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yep, can totally relate. I've had a few times where I just didn't feel like going "out". And, I think it's hard when it's in the middle of the day and trying to find someone to watch the kids. I do feel like I get out of the house on a regular basis, though. Once a week friends from my ward get together for playgroup, which is good for the kids, too, and a great way to get to know others. Plus, we do girls nights lot. I've noticed when I go even if I don't totally feel like it, I come home pretty happy and rejuvinated to jump back into the regular ol' life. It's a good reminder that I've got people that want me around (besides family) and that we can relate with and laugh with/at each other.
Hmmm... I definitely relate, but I think in my case it's because I'm a homebody, not because I feel like there's so many things I "should" be doing instead. However, almost every time that I push myself to go do something (even if I don't feel like it), I'm happy that I did. Especially when making new friends - it can be hard to choose to leave your comfort zone and go put yourself out there, not knowing what to expect. I definitely get that. ( :
I've gone through that before. Then other times, I'm sitting at home, longing for something to do and there's no one to call. I'm sure it's just a phase and it will pass. Call it the winter blahs, maybe. Hope you pop out of your funk soon! :)
i'm totally with amber. i am a homebody as well. unless my hubby is home and watching over the kiddos, i don't really like to go out socially.
however, it make me even more leery when i don't know the people and/or situation. i'd much rather stay at home in my comfort zone than go out and perhaps be an outcast in a little social gathering!
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